Why Do So Many Men Like Porn?

[Deidre Logan]

Lessons For Women

Women have wondered forever what it is about porn that mesmerizes so many men. Some of us have tried to participate with our partners only to find ourselves feeling like Hell afterwards. Others of us have found ways to make it part of our sexual lexicon with mixed results.

Let's face it. Outside of the industry, it is difficult at best for a couple to comfortably fit porn into their relationship. Men, on the other hand, generally have no problem keeping as part of their lives for their entire lives - whether they hide it or not. It is a very popular source of entertainment, sexual gratification, and oftentimes - a coping mechanism.

The reasons men like it are as varied as the men who like it. However, there is one thing I discovered in my own research that is a recurring theme. Men thoroughly enjoy the attitudes of the women involved. The women are generally average looking. Most times, they are not extraordinarily beautiful the way many of us imagine. However, they do appear to thoroughly enjoy sex for the sake of sex. They act like they enjoy everything about the sexual experience.

This is a valuable insight that women would do well to find a way to incorporate into their real life encounters. Men don't need you to be a sexual pretzel. They don't need tricks out of the ordinary to be satisfied. What they do need is to feel desired - sexually and totally. Men crave approval and acceptance at least as much as women do. They have different ways of showing it, but it's true.

Bottom line - men want us to want them as much as they want us. They want us to surrender ourselves to the ecstasy they create for us. They don't want us to be controlled and conservative. They want us uninhibited and free (without a salary or a script)!!!!

Here's what I suggest - enthusiasm! Show it. Don't hide it. Don't pretend. Be creative and inventive without violating your sensibilities. You'll probably surprise yourself with the things you come up with. Experiment, play, enjoy. But here's one thing you should never do - never do anything that you both can't agree on. Force and coercion should have no place in intimate exchanges. Other than that, be open (no pun intended - smile) and leave no doubt in your man's mind that you are excited about sharing yourself with him. You won't regret it.

Speaking the truth in love,

Deidre

[Deidre Logan]

I think we're saying the same thing. I'm really not speaking of fornication. I should have been clearer about that. I am, however, speaking very definitely about intimacy between married people. If she becomes a student of her man and learns what he likes and dislikes better than anyone else, she has powerful weapons in her arsenal for keeping him sexually satisfied. Fortunately for her, it works both ways.

No man wants to feel like he's seriously involved with a woman who been with every Tom, Dick, and Harry he can think of. But he does want to feel like his woman would rather be loving him than anyone else in the world. If she effectively communicates that to him sexually, he'll be more likely to believe it in all the other areas of the relationship.

Please stop by again, Enoch. I appreciate your perspective greatly.

Thanks again for coming by,

Deidre

[Enoch Mubarak]

I am a man and take this from my mouth to Gods ear. As soon as you become his porn star that's when he is going to leave you.

When you become his porn star and fornicate him like he stole something from the government it is only a matter of time before he loses all trust with you. Once you turn him out or he turns you out there is no turning back for that relationship. Mistrust, jealousy and all hell with ensue.

A man can only watch and enjoy porn when he has the confidence and peace of mind knowing that his woman is not like that. A man will marry a woman with 3 children and while looking at the children he will still believe that she has had sex only with him.

A woman's greatest asset is a mans imagination and he can't imagine being married to a porn star because after the sex is over he knows he has to deal with the person.

Enoch Mubarak
President & CEO Mubarak Inter-prizes
www.mubarakinter-prizes.com
www.undercoversmart.com