Firstly, congrats on making the New York Times Best Seller List with you new book "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man." Now, about that book. A very close girl-friend purchased your book for me as a gift and I must say, I'm really enjoying reading it but I am on the other hand somewhat putout by the content. Now, don't get me wrong your advice is solid and right-on but I find it almost impractical for my life and the lives of my single friends. You see the men you describe in your book that are worthy of our time are men who are focused, hard working, goal oriented and well, men. The problem is that very few of them exist and most are married, engaged or committed. I believe the problem for women like me is not that we are settling but that all of the decent men are taken.
See, I believe no matter how much you try to make him bring his A' game by not giving in to the nonsense most men bring these days, he's just going to pass us good women up and move on to the sistahs that are willing to settle. And there will always be women who will settle; they have been with us since the beginning of time and will continue to populate the planet until the end of time. Are you following me Steve? Plus these playa's know that there is always someone willing to put up with their mess because we out number you men 6 - 1! Now unless you guys figure out a way to improve the longevity of the male sperm, we will continue to out number you. (For those of you who may have forgotten your biology, female sperm swim slower but live longer - male sperm swim faster but die sooner) So, women like me are fighting a loosing battle; as long as women settle, men will bring drama. How do we fix this?
I guess you can say the women who settle have made it difficult for us women who don't and the men who enjoy gaming are in 7th heaven because they don't have to get themselves together because there is always someone who will absorb their SHIT! So, back to my original thought . . .
I have a close circle of men who have been cracking the man-code for me for years as you have done in your book. This has prevented me from being a victim but it has not helped me meet a decent, focused, and hardworking, goal oriented man because the brothas that step to me usually got DRAMA! Now, because I'm privy to the 'code' I don't entertain them as I've said but 'me time' gets old after a while and pushing up on some testosterone every now and again would be nice.
Perhaps in hindsight your book is not for me and my friends but the women who continue to become victims of the "okey-doke" so, do me a personal favor and write a book for us women with much to bring to the table who refuse to settle for less. I have the perfect title for you, "Where All the Real Brothas At?"